Dictionary of Bible Themes The period of engagement preceding marriage; betrothal was a binding contract established between two families and sealed by the exchange of gifts. During this period the couple did not live together; sexual relations with each other at this stage was regarded as equivalent to adultery. Betrothal describes the relationship between God and his people and between Jesus Christ and the church. Genesis 21:21Betrothal and the choice of a spouse Wives were often chosen by parents for their sons See also Genesis 24:4; 38:6It was usual practice for the groom's parents to choose his wife and arrange the wedding. Ruth 3:1-4Suitable husbands were sought by parents for their daughters See also Judges 1:12-13Naomi, in the role of parent, assumes responsibility to find a husband for Ruth. 1 Samuel 18:17,21Judges 14:1-4 Betrothal following the couple's wishes See also Genesis 34:1-4; 24:57-58; 26:34-35Sometimes the man chose a prospective bride and his parents negotiated the marriage. Esau chose a bride against his parents' wishes. Genesis 29:21Betrothal preceded marriage Deuteronomy 20:7Matthew 1:24 1 Corinthians 7:36-38 A betrothed soldier was exempted from military service until after his marriage Genesis 34:11-12An exchange of gifts accompanyed betrothal The bride-price See also Genesis 24:53; 29:18,27This gift, which was given by the groom to the bride's family as compensation, sealed the marriage contract. Exodus 22:16-17Deuteronomy 22:28-29 2 Samuel 3:14 1 Kings 9:16 The dowry Genesis 24:59; 29:24,29The dowry was a gift from the bride's father to the bride and/or groom. Judges 1:14-15Servants were given to the bride as a dowry: Deuteronomy 22:23-24Betrothal was treated as marriage See also Genesis 19:14Though there were no sexual relations within the betrothal period, the commitment was regarded almost as seriously as marriage and infidelity of a betrothed partner was treated as adultery. Matthew 1:18-20The men betrothed to Lot's daughters are described as his "sons-in-law" Mary's pregnancy during betrothal left her open to the charge and consequences of unfaithfulness. Hosea 2:19-20Betrothal portrays the relationship between God and his people 2 Corinthians 11:2See also John 3:29Ephesians 5:25-27 Revelation 19:7-9; 21:2 See also 5445 potters & pottery5659 bride 5660 bridegroom 5679 dowry 5680 family 5702 husband 5711 marriage, restrictions 5740 virgin 5742 wedding 5744 wife 6236 sexual sin |
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