2 Samuel 13:22
And Absalom never said a word to Amnon, either good or bad, because he hated Amnon for disgracing his sister Tamar.
And Absalom never said a word to Amnon, either good or bad,

Absalom’s silence concealed neither forgiveness nor indifference. For two years he gave Amnon no open rebuke and offered no reconciliation, while the injury done to Tamar remained unresolved. David’s anger did not result in recorded discipline, leaving Absalom to brood over a matter that required righteous judgment. Unlike Christ’s silence before His accusers, which displayed submission to the Father’s redemptive will, Absalom’s silence prepared the way for personal vengeance.

Gen 31:24 But that night God came to Laban the Aramean in a dream…
Gen 24:50 Laban and Bethuel answered, “This is from the LORD;……

because he hated Amnon

Absalom’s hatred arose from Amnon’s violence against Tamar and the disgrace brought upon their household. His concern for his sister was justified, but hatred became a consuming force that led him to murder rather than entrust justice to God and lawful authority. Scripture consistently warns that resentment left unchecked produces further sin, as seen in Cain’s murder of Abel and Joseph’s brothers’ cruelty toward him.

Gen 37:4 When Joseph’s brothers saw that their father loved him…
Gen 27:41 Esau held a grudge against Jacob because of the blessing…
Pro 10:12 Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers all…

for violating his sister Tamar.

Amnon’s assault was a grave sin against Tamar, against Absalom, and against God’s law, which forbade sexual relations with a sister and condemned such violence. Tamar was left desolate, while Amnon escaped immediate punishment. The injustice within David’s house fulfilled the painful consequences foretold after David’s sin, as violence and division now spread through his own family.

Lev 20:17 If a man marries his sister, whether the daughter of his…
Deu 27:22 Cursed is he who sleeps with his sister,…
Gen 34:2-7 When Shechem son of Hamor the Hivite, the prince…

Persons / Places / Events
1. Absalom
The third son of King David, known for his striking appearance and later rebellion against his father. In this context, he is Tamar's brother, harboring hatred for Amnon due to the violation of his sister.

2. Amnon
The firstborn son of King David, who committed a grievous sin by raping his half-sister Tamar, leading to familial discord and his eventual murder by Absalom.

3. Tamar
The daughter of King David and sister to Absalom, who suffered the trauma of being raped by her half-brother Amnon, leading to her desolation and Absalom's vengeful hatred.

4. King David
The father of Absalom, Amnon, and Tamar, who is notably passive in dealing with the sin and its aftermath within his family.

5. Hatred and Silence
The event of Absalom's silent hatred towards Amnon, which festers over time, leading to further tragedy within David's family.
Teaching Points
The Danger of Unresolved Anger
Absalom's silence and hatred towards Amnon illustrate the destructive power of unresolved anger. Christians are called to address anger promptly to prevent sin from taking root.

The Consequences of Sin
Amnon's sin against Tamar sets off a chain of events leading to further sin and tragedy. This highlights the ripple effect of sin and the importance of repentance and reconciliation.

The Importance of Justice and Righteous Leadership
King David's failure to address Amnon's sin demonstrates the need for righteous leadership and justice. Leaders are called to act justly and uphold righteousness within their spheres of influence.

The Power of Forgiveness
While Absalom's response is one of hatred, Christians are called to forgive as Christ forgave, breaking the cycle of vengeance and hatred.

Family Dynamics and God's Design
The dysfunction in David's family serves as a cautionary tale about the importance of adhering to God's design for family relationships, promoting love, respect, and protection.
Bible Study Questions
1. How does Absalom's silent hatred towards Amnon reflect the dangers of harboring unresolved anger in our own lives?

2. In what ways can we ensure that justice and righteousness are upheld in our families and communities, as opposed to the inaction seen in King David?

3. How can the account of Absalom and Amnon inform our understanding of the importance of addressing sin and seeking reconciliation?

4. What steps can we take to forgive those who have wronged us, in light of the destructive power of hatred demonstrated by Absalom?

5. How does this passage challenge us to examine our own family dynamics and align them with biblical principles of love and respect?
Connections to Other Scriptures
Genesis 4:8
The account of Cain and Abel, where Cain harbors silent hatred towards Abel, leading to murder. This parallels Absalom's silent hatred towards Amnon.

Matthew 5:21-22
Jesus' teaching on anger, equating it with murder in the heart, which relates to Absalom's internalized hatred.

Ephesians 4:26-27
Paul's exhortation to not let the sun go down on anger, highlighting the danger of unresolved anger as seen in Absalom's actions.
Absalom and AmnonW. G. Blaikie, D. D.2 Samuel 13:1-29
Amnon and Absalom: -- Examples of Short-Circuited Lives2 Samuel 13:1-29
Parental FailureW. G. Blaikie, D. D.2 Samuel 13:1-29
Purity At All CostNewton Jones.2 Samuel 13:1-29
The Wickedness of AmnonJ. Parker, D. D.2 Samuel 13:1-29
Vengeance Upon the WrongdoerTytler's History2 Samuel 13:1-29
The Crime of AmnonB. Dale 2 Samuel 13:1-33
The Revenge of AbsalomB. Dale 2 Samuel 13:22-29
People
Absalom, Ammihud, Amnon, David, Jonadab, Shimeah, Talmai, Tamar
Places
Baal-hazor, Geshur, Jerusalem
Topics
Absalom, Ab'salom, Amnon, Bad, Brother, Disgraced, Either, Evil, Force, Forced, Full, Hate, Hated, Hating, Humbled, Nothing, Sister, Spake, Speak, Spoke, Spoken, Tamar, Violated
Dictionary of Bible Themes
2 Samuel 13:22

     5799   bitterness
     5836   disgrace
     5875   hatred
     8300   love, and the world
     8765   grudge

2 Samuel 13:1-22

     8340   self-respect

2 Samuel 13:1-33

     5661   brothers

2 Samuel 13:21-22

     6237   sexual sin, nature of

2 Samuel 13:22-32

     6240   rape

Library
Saurin -- Paul Before Felix and Drusilla
Jacques Saurin, the famous French Protestant preacher of the seventeenth century, was born at Nismes in 1677. He studied at Geneva and was appointed to the Walloon Church in London in 1701. The scene of his great life work was, however, the Hague, where he settled in 1705. He has been compared with Bossuet, tho he never attained the graceful style and subtilty which characterize the "Eagle of Meaux." The story is told of the famous scholar Le Clerc that he long refused to hear Saurin preach, on the
Grenville Kleiser—The world's great sermons, Volume 3

Blessed are they that Mourn
Blessed are they that mourn. Matthew 5:4 Here are eight steps leading to true blessedness. They may be compared to Jacob's Ladder, the top whereof reached to heaven. We have already gone over one step, and now let us proceed to the second: Blessed are they that mourn'. We must go through the valley of tears to paradise. Mourning were a sad and unpleasant subject to treat on, were it not that it has blessedness going before, and comfort coming after. Mourning is put here for repentance. It implies
Thomas Watson—The Beatitudes: An Exposition of Matthew 5:1-12

No Sorrow Like Messiah's Sorrow
Is it nothing to you, all you who pass by? Behold, and see, if there be any sorrow like unto my sorrow! A lthough the Scriptures of the Old Testament, the law of Moses, the Psalms, and the Prophecies (Luke 24:44) , bear an harmonious testimony to MESSIAH ; it is not necessary to suppose that every single passage has an immediate and direct relation to Him. A method of exposition has frequently obtained [frequently been in vogue], of a fanciful and allegorical cast [contrivance], under the pretext
John Newton—Messiah Vol. 1

Exhortations to Christians as they are Children of God
1 There is a bill of indictment against those who declare to the world they are not the children of God: all profane persons. These have damnation written upon their forehead. Scoffers at religion. It were blasphemy to call these the children of God. Will a true child jeer at his Father's picture? Drunkards, who drown reason and stupefy conscience. These declare their sin as Sodom. They are children indeed, but cursed children' (2 Peter 2:14). 2 Exhortation, which consists of two branches. (i) Let
Thomas Watson—The Beatitudes: An Exposition of Matthew 5:1-12

Repentance
Then has God also to the Gentiles granted repentance unto life.' Acts 11: 18. Repentance seems to be a bitter pill to take, but it is to purge out the bad humour of sin. By some Antinomian spirits it is cried down as a legal doctrine; but Christ himself preached it. From that time Jesus began to preach, and to say, Repent,' &c. Matt 4: 17. In his last farewell, when he was ascending to heaven, he commanded that Repentance should be preached in his name.' Luke 24: 47. Repentance is a pure gospel grace.
Thomas Watson—The Ten Commandments

Samuel
Alike from the literary and the historical point of view, the book[1] of Samuel stands midway between the book of Judges and the book of Kings. As we have already seen, the Deuteronomic book of Judges in all probability ran into Samuel and ended in ch. xii.; while the story of David, begun in Samuel, embraces the first two chapters of the first book of Kings. The book of Samuel is not very happily named, as much of it is devoted to Saul and the greater part to David; yet it is not altogether inappropriate,
John Edgar McFadyen—Introduction to the Old Testament

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