Proverbs 20:20
Whoever curses his father or mother, his lamp will be extinguished in deepest darkness.
Whoever curses
The phrase "whoever curses" is a solemn warning against the act of cursing, which in the Hebrew context is more than just using foul language. The Hebrew word used here is "קָלַל" (qalal), which means to make light of, to despise, or to treat with contempt. In ancient Israelite society, honoring one's parents was a fundamental commandment, deeply rooted in the Ten Commandments (Exodus 20:12). Cursing one's parents was seen as a severe violation of this commandment, reflecting a heart of rebellion and disrespect. This phrase serves as a reminder of the gravity of our words and attitudes towards those whom God has placed in authority over us.

his father or mother
The mention of "his father or mother" underscores the importance of the family unit in biblical teaching. In the Hebrew culture, the family was the primary social unit, and parents were seen as God's representatives in the home. The command to honor one's parents is reiterated throughout Scripture, emphasizing the role of parents in teaching and guiding their children in the ways of the Lord (Deuteronomy 6:6-7). This phrase highlights the sacredness of the parent-child relationship and the expectation of respect and honor within the family.

his lamp will be extinguished
The imagery of "his lamp will be extinguished" is a powerful metaphor in biblical literature. In ancient times, a lamp was a source of light and life, symbolizing guidance, wisdom, and the presence of God. The extinguishing of a lamp signifies the removal of these blessings, leading to a life devoid of divine guidance and favor. This phrase serves as a warning of the spiritual and moral consequences of dishonoring one's parents, suggesting that such actions lead to a life of darkness and separation from God's light.

in deepest darkness
The phrase "in deepest darkness" conveys a sense of utter hopelessness and despair. The Hebrew word for darkness, "אֹפֶל" (ophel), often denotes a profound absence of light, both physically and spiritually. In biblical terms, darkness is frequently associated with judgment, chaos, and evil (Isaiah 8:22). This phrase warns of the severe repercussions of cursing one's parents, indicating that such behavior leads to a life characterized by spiritual blindness and separation from God's truth and blessings. It serves as a call to repentance and a return to honoring God's commandments.

Persons / Places / Events
1. Father and Mother
In the context of Proverbs, these figures represent not only biological parents but also authority figures and the wisdom of previous generations. They are central to the family unit, which is a foundational element of society in biblical teaching.

2. The Lamp
Symbolically, the lamp represents life, guidance, and the presence of God’s wisdom. In ancient times, a lamp was essential for light and safety, especially during the night.

3. Deepest Darkness
This phrase signifies a state of utter hopelessness and separation from God’s guidance and blessing. It is a metaphor for spiritual and moral darkness.
Teaching Points
The Importance of Honor
Honoring parents is a direct command from God and reflects our respect for His established order.

Disrespect towards parents is seen as a serious offense with spiritual consequences.

Consequences of Disobedience
Cursing parents leads to spiritual darkness, symbolizing a life devoid of God’s guidance and blessing.

The extinguishing of the lamp serves as a warning of the potential loss of spiritual insight and moral direction.

The Role of Family in Spiritual Formation
The family is a primary context for learning and practicing godly wisdom.

Parents are entrusted with the responsibility to teach and model God’s ways to their children.

Repentance and Restoration
While the consequences of cursing parents are severe, God offers forgiveness and restoration through repentance.

Seeking reconciliation with parents can restore the light of God’s wisdom in one’s life.
Bible Study Questions
1. How does the command to honor your father and mother in Exodus 20:12 relate to the warning in Proverbs 20:20?

2. In what ways can we practically honor our parents today, even if they are not believers or have made mistakes?

3. What are some modern examples of how "cursing" parents might manifest, and what are the potential consequences?

4. How can the church community support individuals in restoring relationships with their parents?

5. Reflect on a time when you experienced "deepest darkness" due to disobedience. How did you find your way back to the light of God’s wisdom?
Connections to Other Scriptures
Exodus 20:12
This verse is part of the Ten Commandments, emphasizing the importance of honoring one's parents. It connects to Proverbs 20:20 by highlighting the blessings associated with respecting parental authority.

Ephesians 6:1-3
Paul reiterates the command to honor parents, promising well-being and longevity. This New Testament passage reinforces the Old Testament principle found in Proverbs 20:20.

Matthew 15:4-6
Jesus criticizes the Pharisees for neglecting the command to honor parents, showing that this principle is vital in both the Old and New Testaments.
Smitten SinsE. Johnson Proverbs 20:20-23
People
Ephah, Solomon
Places
Jerusalem
Topics
Anyone, Blackest, Blackness, Curse, Curses, Curseth, Darkness, Extinguished, Lamp, Obscure, Pitch, Puts, Snuffed, Utter, Vilifying
Dictionary of Bible Themes
Proverbs 20:20

     5218   authority, in home
     5685   fathers, responsibilities
     5719   mothers, responsibilities
     5896   irreverence

Proverbs 20:19-20

     5550   speech, negative

Library
Bread and Gravel
'"Bread of deceit" is sweet to a man; but afterwards his mouth shall be filled with gravel.'--PROVERBS xx. 17. 'Bread of deceit' is a somewhat ambiguous phrase, which may mean either of two things, and perhaps means both. It may either mean any good obtained by deceit, or good which deceives in its possession. In the former signification it would appear to have reference primarily to unjustly gotten gain, while in the latter it has a wider meaning and applies to all the worthless treasures and lying
Alexander Maclaren—Expositions of Holy Scripture

The Sluggard in Harvest
'The sluggard will not plow by reason of the cold; therefore shall he beg in harvest, and have nothing.'--PROVERBS xx. 4. Like all the sayings of this book, this is simply a piece of plain, practical common sense, intended to inculcate the lesson that men should diligently seize the opportunity whilst it is theirs. The sluggard is one of the pet aversions of the Book of Proverbs, which, unlike most other manuals of Eastern wisdom, has a profound reverence for honest work. He is a great drone, for
Alexander Maclaren—Expositions of Holy Scripture

A String of Pearls
'Wine is a mocker, strong drink is raging: and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise. 2. The fear of a king is as the roaring of a lion: whoso provoketh him to anger sinneth against his own soul. 3. It is an honour for a man to cease from strife: but every fool will be meddling. 4. The sluggard will not plough by reason of the cold; therefore shall he beg in harvest, and have nothing. 5. Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man of understanding will draw it out. 6. Most men will
Alexander Maclaren—Expositions of Holy Scripture

The Sluggard's Reproof
A Sermon (No. 2766) intended for reading on Lord's Day, February 16, 1902 delivered by C.H. Spurgeon at New Park Street Chapel, Southwark on a Thursday Evening, during the Winter of 1859. "The sluggard will not plow by reason of the cold; therefore shall he beg in harvest, and have nothing." {cold: or, winter}-- Proverbs 20:4. Laziness is the crying sin of Eastern nations. I believe that the peculiar genius of the Anglo-Saxon character prevents our being, as a nation, guilty of that sin. Perhaps
C.H. Spurgeon—Sermons on Proverbs

Friendship.
BONDS OF ATTACHMENT. Each person is connected with every other person by some bond of attachment. It may be by the steel bond of brotherhood, by the silvern chain of religious fellowship, by the golden band of conjugal affection, by the flaxen cord of parental or filial love, or by the silken tie of friendship. One or more of these bonds of attachment may encircle each person, and each bond has its varying strength, and is capable of endless lengthening and contracting. Brotherhood is a general
J. M. Judy—Questionable Amusements and Worthy Substitutes

Regeneration the Work of God.
"The hearing ear, and the seeing eye, the Lord hath even made both of them."--Prov. xx. 12. "The hearing ear, and the seeing eye, the Lord hath even made both of them." This testimony of the Holy Spirit contains the whole mystery of regeneration. An unregenerate person is deaf and blind; not only as a stock or block, but worse. For neither stock nor block is corrupt or ruined, but an unregenerate person is wholly dead and a prey to the most fearful dissolution. This rigid, uncompromising, and absolute
Abraham Kuyper—The Work of the Holy Spirit

Ploughing in Canaan.
In Scripture frequent mention is made of the husbandman and his work. Ploughing the land, sowing the seed, reaping the harvest, and winnowing the grain are often referred to. Our picture shows an Eastern husbandman ploughing. How different it is to ploughing in our own land! There is no coulter; and instead of the broad steel plough-share we see a pointed piece of wood. And the long handles with which our labourers guide their ploughs--where are they? The strong horses, too, harnessed one behind
Anonymous—Mother Stories from the Old Testament

What Now Shall I Say Concerning the Very Carefulness and Watchfulness against Sin? "Who...
48. What now shall I say concerning the very carefulness and watchfulness against sin? "Who shall boast that he hath a chaste heart? or who shall boast that he is clean from sin?" [2200] Holy virginity is indeed inviolate from the mother's womb; but "no one," saith he, "is clean in Thy sight, not even the infant whose life is of one day upon the earth." [2201] There is kept also in faith inviolate a certain virginal chastity, whereby the Church is joined as a chaste virgin unto One Husband: but That
St. Augustine—Of Holy Virginity.

The Third Exile, 356-362.
The third exile of Athanasius marks the summit of his achievement. Its commencement is the triumph, its conclusion the collapse of Arianism. It is true that after the death of Constantius the battle went on with variations of fortune for twenty years, mostly under the reign of an ardently Arian Emperor (364-378). But by 362 the utter lack of inner coherence in the Arian ranks was manifest to all; the issue of the fight might be postponed by circumstances but could not be in doubt. The break-up of
Athanasius—Select Works and Letters or Athanasius

Benjamin Whichcote, the First of the "Latitude-Men"
The type of Christianity which I have been calling "spiritual religion," that is, religion grounded in the nature of Reason, finds, at least in England, its noblest expression in the group of men, sometimes called "Cambridge Platonists," and sometimes "Latitude-Men," or simply "Latitudinarians." These labels were all given them by their critics and opponents, and were used to give the impression that the members of this group or school were introducing and advancing a type of Christianity too broad
Rufus M. Jones—Spiritual Reformers in the 16th and 17th Centuries

"Now the End of the Commandment," &C.
1 Tim. i. 5.--"Now the end of the commandment," &c. Fourthly, Faith purging the conscience purifies the heart (Acts xv. 9.), and hope also purifies the heart (1 John iii. 3.), which is nothing else but faith in the perfection and vigour of it. This includes, I. That the heart was unclean before faith. II. That faith cleanses it, and makes it pure. But "who can say, I have made my heart pure (Prov. xx. 9.), I am clean from my sin?" Is there any man's heart on this side of time, which lodges not many
Hugh Binning—The Works of the Rev. Hugh Binning

The Tears of the Penitent.
Adversity had taught David self-restraint, had braced his soul, had driven him to grasp firmly the hand of God. And prosperity had seemed for nearly twenty years but to perfect the lessons. Gratitude had followed deliverance, and the sunshine after the rain had brought out the fragrance of devotion and the blossoms of glad songs. A good man, and still more a man of David's age at the date of his great crime, seldom falls so low, unless there has been previous, perhaps unconscious, relaxation of the
Alexander Maclaren—The Life of David

How the Slothful and the Hasty are to be Admonished.
(Admonition 16.) Differently to be admonished are the slothful and the hasty. For the former are to be persuaded not to lose, by putting it off, the good they have to do; but the latter are to be admonished lest, while they forestall the time of good deeds by inconsiderate haste, they change their meritorious character. To the slothful therefore it is to be intimated, that often, when we will not do at the right time what we can, before long, when we will, we cannot. For the very indolence of
Leo the Great—Writings of Leo the Great

"If we Say that we have no Sin, we Deceive Ourselves, and the Truth is not in Us. "
1 John i. 8.--"If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us." "The night is far spent, the day is at hand," Rom. xiii. 12. This life is but as night, even to the godly. There is some light in it,--some star light, but it is mixed with much darkness of ignorance and sin, and so it will be, till the sun arise, and the morning of their translation to heaven come. But though it be called night in one sense, in regard of that perfect glorious perpetual day in heaven,
Hugh Binning—The Works of the Rev. Hugh Binning

Concerning Worship.
Concerning Worship. [780] All true and acceptable worship to God is offered in the inward and immediate moving and drawing of his own Spirit which is neither limited to places times, nor persons. For though we are to worship him always, and continually to fear before him; [781] yet as to the outward signification thereof, in prayers, praises, or preachings, we ought not to do it in our own will, where and when we will; but where and when we are moved thereunto by the stirring and secret inspiration
Robert Barclay—Theses Theologicae and An Apology for the True Christian Divinity

"Boast not Thyself of to Morrow, for Thou Knowest not what a Day May Bring Forth. "
Prov. xxvii. 1.--"Boast not thyself of to morrow, for thou knowest not what a day may bring forth." As man is naturally given to boasting and gloriation in something (for the heart cannot want some object to rest upon and take complacency in, it is framed with such a capacity of employing other things), so there is a strong inclination in man towards the time to come, he hath an immortal appetite, and an appetite of immortality; and therefore his desires usually stretch farther than the present
Hugh Binning—The Works of the Rev. Hugh Binning

Manner of Covenanting.
Previous to an examination of the manner of engaging in the exercise of Covenanting, the consideration of God's procedure towards his people while performing the service seems to claim regard. Of the manner in which the great Supreme as God acts, as well as of Himself, our knowledge is limited. Yet though even of the effects on creatures of His doings we know little, we have reason to rejoice that, in His word He has informed us, and in His providence illustrated by that word, he has given us to
John Cunningham—The Ordinance of Covenanting

How the Whole and the Sick are to be Admonished.
(Admonition 13.) Differently to be admonished are the whole and the sick. For the whole are to be admonished that they employ the health of the body to the health of the soul: lest, if they turn the grace of granted soundness to the use of iniquity, they be made worse by the gift, and afterwards merit the severer punishments, in that they fear not now to use amiss the more bountiful gifts of God. The whole are to be admonished that they despise not the opportunity of winning health for ever.
Leo the Great—Writings of Leo the Great

How to be Admonished are those who Give Away what is their Own, and those who Seize what Belongs to Others.
(Admonition 21.) Differently to be admonished are those who already give compassionately of their own, and those who still would fain seize even what belongs to others. For those who already give compassionately of their own are to be admonished not to lift themselves up in swelling thought above those to whom they impart earthly things; not to esteem themselves better than others because they see others to be supported by them. For the Lord of an earthly household, in distributing the ranks and
Leo the Great—Writings of Leo the Great

We Shall not be Curious in the Ranking of the Duties in which Christian Love...
We shall not be curious in the ranking of the duties in which Christian love should exercise itself. All the commandments of the second table are but branches of it: they might be reduced all to the works of righteousness and of mercy. But truly these are interwoven through other. Though mercy uses to be restricted to the showing of compassion upon men in misery, yet there is a righteousness in that mercy, and there is mercy in the most part of the acts of righteousness, as in not judging rashly,
Hugh Binning—The Works of the Rev. Hugh Binning

"And Watch unto Prayer. "
1 Pet. iv. 7.--"And watch unto prayer." "Watch." A Christian should watch. A Christian is a watchman by office. This duty of watchfulness is frequently commanded and commended in scripture, Matt. xxiv. 42, Mark xiii. 33, 1 Cor. xvi. 13, Eph. vi. 18, 1 Pet. v. 8, Col. iv. 2; Luke xii. 37. David did wait as they that did watch for the morning light. The ministers of the gospel are styled watchmen in scripture and every Christian should be to himself as a minister is to his flock, he should watch over
Hugh Binning—The Works of the Rev. Hugh Binning

The Eighth Commandment
Thou shalt not steal.' Exod 20: 15. AS the holiness of God sets him against uncleanness, in the command Thou shalt not commit adultery;' so the justice of God sets him against rapine and robbery, in the command, Thou shalt not steal.' The thing forbidden in this commandment, is meddling with another man's property. The civil lawyers define furtum, stealth or theft to be the laying hands unjustly on that which is another's;' the invading another's right. I. The causes of theft. [1] The internal causes
Thomas Watson—The Ten Commandments

Proverbs
Many specimens of the so-called Wisdom Literature are preserved for us in the book of Proverbs, for its contents are by no means confined to what we call proverbs. The first nine chapters constitute a continuous discourse, almost in the manner of a sermon; and of the last two chapters, ch. xxx. is largely made up of enigmas, and xxxi. is in part a description of the good housewife. All, however, are rightly subsumed under the idea of wisdom, which to the Hebrew had always moral relations. The Hebrew
John Edgar McFadyen—Introduction to the Old Testament

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