2 Samuel 13:15
Then Amnon hated Tamar with such intensity that his hatred was greater than the love he previously had. "Get up!" he said to her. "Be gone!"
Then Amnon hated Tamar with such intensity

Amnon’s violent reversal exposed that his desire for Tamar had never been covenantal love. Having dishonored his half-sister by force, he treated her not as a person made in God’s image but as an object of selfish desire. Sin did not satisfy him; it produced contempt, separation, and further cruelty. Cain’s unchecked anger likewise led from inward corruption to violence against his brother (Genesis 4:5–8).

Psa 109:4-5 In return for my love they accuse me…
Psa 41:9 Even my close friend whom I trusted, the one who shared…
Psa 55:12-14 For it is not an enemy who insults me; that I could endure.…

that his hatred was greater than the love he previously had.

What Amnon called love was lust driven by possession and self-gratification. Genuine love seeks another’s good, acts with patience and kindness, and does not insist on its own way (1 Corinthians 13:4–7). Amnon’s hatred surpassed his former desire because lust turns bitter when it has gained what it sought and no longer needs to maintain its disguise.

Deu 21:15-17 If a man has two wives, one beloved and the other unloved…
Gen 29:30-31 Jacob slept with Rachel as well. So he worked for Laban…
Rom 9:13 So it is written: “Jacob I loved, but Esau I hated.”

“Get up!” he said to her.

Amnon spoke as though Tamar’s presence were an offense, though he alone had committed the offense against her. His command denied her dignity and intensified the trauma of his violence. Tamar had warned him that such wickedness would bring disgrace upon both of them and make him like one of the godless men in Israel (2 Samuel 13:12–13).

Gen 19:15 At daybreak the angels hurried Lot along, saying,…
Exo 12:31 Then Pharaoh summoned Moses and Aaron by night and said……
Mat 2:13 When the Magi had gone, an angel of the Lord appeared…

“Be gone!”

Sending Tamar away left her publicly shamed and socially vulnerable. A royal daughter who had been violated could face a devastated future, particularly because marriage and family honor held great weight in Israelite society. Tamar recognized that this dismissal was worse than the assault because it abandoned her with its consequences (2 Samuel 13:16). Amnon’s rejection foreshadowed the injustice that would bring judgment and division upon David’s house.

Gen 21:10-14 Expel the slave woman and her son, for the slave woman’s son…
Gal 4:30 Expel the slave woman and her son, for the slave woman’s son…
Jhn 9:34-35 They replied, “You were born in utter sin,”…

Persons / Places / Events
1. Amnon
The firstborn son of King David, who is infatuated with his half-sister Tamar. His actions lead to a series of tragic events within David's family.

2. Tamar
The daughter of King David and sister of Absalom, who is violated by her half-brother Amnon. Her account is one of innocence and victimization.

3. David's Household
The royal family of Israel, which is marked by internal strife and moral failures, reflecting the consequences of sin and disobedience.

4. The Event
Amnon's act of violating Tamar and his subsequent hatred towards her, which sets off a chain of events leading to further family discord and violence.
Teaching Points
The Consequences of Sin
Amnon's actions are a stark reminder of how sin can lead to destructive outcomes, not only for the sinner but also for those around them. Sin often has far-reaching consequences that affect families and communities.

The Nature of Lust vs. Love
Amnon's transition from infatuation to hatred illustrates the difference between lust and genuine love. True love is selfless and seeks the good of the other, while lust is selfish and destructive.

The Importance of Righteous Leadership
David's failure to address the sins within his family highlights the need for righteous and proactive leadership. Leaders must confront sin and injustice to maintain peace and righteousness.

Healing and Restoration
While the account of Tamar is tragic, it points to the need for healing and restoration. The church is called to be a place of refuge and healing for those who have been wronged.
Bible Study Questions
1. How does Amnon's behavior towards Tamar reflect the difference between lust and love, and how can we apply this understanding in our relationships today?

2. In what ways do the events in David's household illustrate the consequences of unaddressed sin, and how can we apply this lesson to our personal and communal lives?

3. How can the church provide support and healing for victims of violence and injustice, as seen in the account of Tamar?

4. What steps can we take to ensure that we are leading with righteousness and addressing sin within our spheres of influence?

5. How does the account of Amnon and Tamar challenge us to examine our own hearts and attitudes towards others, and what scriptures can guide us in cultivating a heart of love and compassion?
Connections to Other Scriptures
Genesis 34
The account of Dinah, who, like Tamar, is a victim of sexual violence. Both accounts highlight the devastating impact of such acts on individuals and families.

2 Samuel 12
Nathan's prophecy to David about the sword never departing from his house due to his sin with Bathsheba. The events in 2 Samuel 13 are a fulfillment of this prophecy, showing the ripple effects of sin.

Ephesians 4:31-32
These verses speak about putting away bitterness and anger, which contrasts with Amnon's actions and attitudes. They provide a New Testament perspective on dealing with emotions and relationships.
Absalom and AmnonW. G. Blaikie, D. D.2 Samuel 13:1-29
Amnon and Absalom: -- Examples of Short-Circuited Lives2 Samuel 13:1-29
Parental FailureW. G. Blaikie, D. D.2 Samuel 13:1-29
Purity At All CostNewton Jones.2 Samuel 13:1-29
The Wickedness of AmnonJ. Parker, D. D.2 Samuel 13:1-29
Vengeance Upon the WrongdoerTytler's History2 Samuel 13:1-29
The Crime of AmnonB. Dale 2 Samuel 13:1-33
People
Absalom, Ammihud, Amnon, David, Jonadab, Shimeah, Talmai, Tamar
Places
Baal-hazor, Geshur, Jerusalem
Topics
Amnon, Arise, Earlier, Exceeding, Exceedingly, Fact, Full, Greater, Hate, Hated, Hateth, Hating, Hatred, Intense, Love, Loved, Rise, Wherewith
Dictionary of Bible Themes
2 Samuel 13:15

     5568   suffering, causes
     5875   hatred

2 Samuel 13:1-19

     5707   male and female

2 Samuel 13:1-20

     5737   sisters

2 Samuel 13:1-21

     5087   David, reign of

2 Samuel 13:1-22

     8340   self-respect

2 Samuel 13:1-33

     5661   brothers

2 Samuel 13:12-16

     5740   virgin

Library
Saurin -- Paul Before Felix and Drusilla
Jacques Saurin, the famous French Protestant preacher of the seventeenth century, was born at Nismes in 1677. He studied at Geneva and was appointed to the Walloon Church in London in 1701. The scene of his great life work was, however, the Hague, where he settled in 1705. He has been compared with Bossuet, tho he never attained the graceful style and subtilty which characterize the "Eagle of Meaux." The story is told of the famous scholar Le Clerc that he long refused to hear Saurin preach, on the
Grenville Kleiser—The world's great sermons, Volume 3

Blessed are they that Mourn
Blessed are they that mourn. Matthew 5:4 Here are eight steps leading to true blessedness. They may be compared to Jacob's Ladder, the top whereof reached to heaven. We have already gone over one step, and now let us proceed to the second: Blessed are they that mourn'. We must go through the valley of tears to paradise. Mourning were a sad and unpleasant subject to treat on, were it not that it has blessedness going before, and comfort coming after. Mourning is put here for repentance. It implies
Thomas Watson—The Beatitudes: An Exposition of Matthew 5:1-12

No Sorrow Like Messiah's Sorrow
Is it nothing to you, all you who pass by? Behold, and see, if there be any sorrow like unto my sorrow! A lthough the Scriptures of the Old Testament, the law of Moses, the Psalms, and the Prophecies (Luke 24:44) , bear an harmonious testimony to MESSIAH ; it is not necessary to suppose that every single passage has an immediate and direct relation to Him. A method of exposition has frequently obtained [frequently been in vogue], of a fanciful and allegorical cast [contrivance], under the pretext
John Newton—Messiah Vol. 1

Exhortations to Christians as they are Children of God
1 There is a bill of indictment against those who declare to the world they are not the children of God: all profane persons. These have damnation written upon their forehead. Scoffers at religion. It were blasphemy to call these the children of God. Will a true child jeer at his Father's picture? Drunkards, who drown reason and stupefy conscience. These declare their sin as Sodom. They are children indeed, but cursed children' (2 Peter 2:14). 2 Exhortation, which consists of two branches. (i) Let
Thomas Watson—The Beatitudes: An Exposition of Matthew 5:1-12

Repentance
Then has God also to the Gentiles granted repentance unto life.' Acts 11: 18. Repentance seems to be a bitter pill to take, but it is to purge out the bad humour of sin. By some Antinomian spirits it is cried down as a legal doctrine; but Christ himself preached it. From that time Jesus began to preach, and to say, Repent,' &c. Matt 4: 17. In his last farewell, when he was ascending to heaven, he commanded that Repentance should be preached in his name.' Luke 24: 47. Repentance is a pure gospel grace.
Thomas Watson—The Ten Commandments

Samuel
Alike from the literary and the historical point of view, the book[1] of Samuel stands midway between the book of Judges and the book of Kings. As we have already seen, the Deuteronomic book of Judges in all probability ran into Samuel and ended in ch. xii.; while the story of David, begun in Samuel, embraces the first two chapters of the first book of Kings. The book of Samuel is not very happily named, as much of it is devoted to Saul and the greater part to David; yet it is not altogether inappropriate,
John Edgar McFadyen—Introduction to the Old Testament

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