Abusive Marriages
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Definition and Context:
Abusive marriages refer to relationships where one spouse exerts control and power over the other through physical, emotional, psychological, or spiritual abuse. This behavior is contrary to the biblical principles of love, respect, and mutual submission that are foundational to Christian marriage.

Biblical Principles of Marriage:
The Bible outlines the ideal for marriage as a loving, respectful, and mutually supportive relationship. In Ephesians 5:25-28 , husbands are instructed to "love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her to sanctify her, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to Himself as a glorious church, without stain or wrinkle or any such blemish, but holy and blameless. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself."

Similarly, wives are called to respect their husbands, as seen in Ephesians 5:33 : "Nevertheless, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."

Abuse as a Violation of Biblical Teachings:
Abuse in any form is a violation of the biblical command to love one's neighbor as oneself (Mark 12:31: "The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these."). It contradicts the fruit of the Spirit, which includes love, kindness, and gentleness (Galatians 5:22-23).

God's View on Oppression and Injustice:
The Bible consistently speaks against oppression and injustice. In Isaiah 1:17 , believers are urged to "learn to do right; seek justice and correct the oppressor. Defend the fatherless and plead the case of the widow." This call to action reflects God's heart for justice and protection for the vulnerable.

Divorce and Separation:
While the Bible upholds marriage as a lifelong covenant, it also acknowledges situations where separation may be necessary. In cases of unrepentant abuse, the safety and well-being of the abused spouse are paramount. 1 Corinthians 7:15 states, "But if the unbeliever leaves, let him go. The believing brother or sister is not bound in such cases. God has called you to live in peace."

Pastoral Care and Support:
Church leaders and communities are called to provide support and care for those in abusive marriages. Galatians 6:2 encourages believers to "carry one another’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." This includes offering practical help, counseling, and a safe environment for those affected by abuse.

Conclusion:
Abusive marriages stand in stark contrast to the biblical vision of marriage as a loving and respectful partnership. The Bible provides guidance for addressing such situations, emphasizing justice, protection, and the well-being of all individuals involved.
Topical Bible Verses
Colossians 3:19
Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
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1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, you husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
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1 Peter 3:6
Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters you are, as long as you do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
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Ephesians 5:25-29
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
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Matthew 19:9
And I say to you, Whoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, commits adultery: and whoever marries her which is put away does commit adultery.
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Library

The Trinitarian Controversy.
... Like all his writings, South's treatise was racy, but violently abusive, and such ...
to warn a degenerate age against the wickedness of second marriages; he had ...
/.../chapter vi the trinitarian controversy.htm

The Seven Books of Arnobius Against the Heathen
... 53 Cease in your ignorance to receive such great deeds with abusive language? ... 28
For where there are weddings, marriages, births, nurses, arts? ...
/.../arnobius/the seven books of arnobius against the heathen/

Useful Phrases
... insular strength. insulting invectives [invective = abusive language]. insuperable
difficulty. ... majestic dignity. maladjusted marriages. malevolent ingenuity. ...
/.../kleiser/fifteen thousand useful phrases/section i useful phrases.htm

The Fourth Book
... loathsome by far"for certain men who have contracted honorable marriages take
additional ... made an attempt to improve himself, he meets the abusive scorn of ...
//christianbookshelf.org/salvian/on the government of god/the fourth book.htm

Epistle Liv. To Cornelius, Concerning Fortunatus and Felicissimus ...
... the violator of virgins, the destroyer and corrupter of many marriages, should not ...
reproach the priests"to assail with contumelies and with abusive words the ...
/.../cyprian/the epistles of cyprian/epistle liv to cornelius concerning.htm

He that Doubteth is Damned if He Eat, Because He Eateth not of ...
... "But after all you say, it is not certain that these marriages are not ... paper on the
subject of slavery, and perhaps sending it back with abusive or threatening ...
/.../finney/lectures to professing christians/he that doubteth is damned.htm

Book 1.
... do live; and even there an exact catalogue of our priests' marriages is kept ... willingly
lay claim to him themselves, though after a most abusive and incredible ...
//christianbookshelf.org/josephus/against apion/book 1.htm

The First Epistle of St. Peter
... especially when their husbands were pagans. Mixed marriages started an acute
problem in the early church. A Christian wife found herself ...
/.../moffat/the general epistles james peter and judas/the first epistle of st.htm

The Life and Death of Mr. Badman,
The Works of John Bunyan Volumes 1-3. <. ...
/.../bunyan/the works of john bunyan volumes 1-3/the life and death of.htm

Resources
What does the Bible say about abuse? | GotQuestions.org

What does the Bible say about emotional abuse? | GotQuestions.org

The Shack by William P. Young - a review | GotQuestions.org

Abusive: Dictionary and Thesaurus | Clyx.com

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