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To start a quarrel is to release a flood; so abandon the dispute before it breaks out.
Study Bible
Starting a quarrel
The Hebrew word for "starting" here is "pāṯaḥ," which means to open or begin. In the context of a quarrel, it suggests the initial act that leads to conflict. The imagery of opening a dam is significant, as it implies that once a quarrel begins, it can quickly escalate beyond control. Historically, the wisdom literature of the Bible often emphasizes the importance of restraint and the dangers of letting anger take root. In a conservative Christian perspective, this phrase serves as a reminder of the importance of self-control and the value of peace, echoing the teachings of Jesus in the New Testament about being peacemakers.

is like breaching a dam
The phrase "breaching a dam" uses vivid imagery to convey the potential consequences of starting a quarrel. In ancient times, a dam was a critical structure for controlling water, essential for agriculture and survival. Breaching it would lead to destruction and chaos, symbolizing how a small argument can lead to significant damage in relationships and communities. The Hebrew word "pāraṣ" means to break through or burst forth, highlighting the sudden and uncontrollable nature of conflict once it begins. This serves as a cautionary tale, urging believers to consider the far-reaching effects of their words and actions.

so drop the matter
The instruction to "drop the matter" is a call to wisdom and prudence. The Hebrew word "nāṭaš" means to leave or abandon, suggesting a deliberate choice to let go of potential conflict. In the biblical context, this aligns with the teachings of Proverbs that advocate for wisdom, understanding, and the avoidance of unnecessary strife. From a conservative Christian viewpoint, this phrase encourages believers to prioritize harmony and to seek resolution rather than contention, reflecting the biblical principle of loving one's neighbor.

before a dispute breaks out
The phrase "before a dispute breaks out" underscores the urgency of addressing potential conflicts early. The Hebrew word "gālāh" means to uncover or reveal, indicating that disputes can expose underlying tensions and lead to open conflict. Historically, disputes in ancient Israel could lead to long-standing feuds and divisions within families and tribes. This part of the verse serves as a warning to act swiftly and wisely to prevent discord. In a conservative Christian context, it emphasizes the importance of proactive peacemaking and the pursuit of reconciliation, in line with the teachings of Christ to seek peace and unity within the body of believers.

Persons / Places / Events
1. Solomon
Traditionally attributed as the author of Proverbs, Solomon was the son of King David and known for his wisdom. His proverbs often provide practical guidance for living a life that honors God.

2. Ancient Israel
The cultural and historical context of Proverbs is ancient Israel, where wisdom literature was a key component of teaching and moral instruction.

3. Quarrel
The event or action described in this verse is the initiation of a quarrel, which is likened to releasing a flood, indicating the potential for widespread damage and chaos.
Teaching Points
The Power of Words
Words can either build up or tear down. Initiating a quarrel is like opening the floodgates, leading to potential destruction. We must choose our words carefully.

The Wisdom of Restraint
Exercising self-control and restraint can prevent unnecessary conflict. It is wise to abandon disputes before they escalate.

The Consequences of Conflict
Just as a flood can cause widespread damage, so can unresolved disputes. Understanding the potential consequences can motivate us to seek peace.

The Call to Peacemaking
As followers of Christ, we are called to be peacemakers. This involves actively seeking to resolve conflicts and promote harmony.

The Role of Humility
Humility allows us to step back from a quarrel, recognizing that winning an argument is less important than maintaining relationships and peace.
Bible Study Questions
1. How does the imagery of a flood help us understand the potential impact of starting a quarrel?

2. In what ways can we apply the principle of abandoning disputes in our daily interactions with family, friends, and colleagues?

3. How do the teachings of Jesus in the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5) reinforce the message of Proverbs 17:14?

4. What practical steps can we take to become better peacemakers in our communities and churches?

5. How can reflecting on the consequences of conflict help us to exercise greater restraint in our words and actions?
Connections to Other Scriptures
James 1:19-20
This passage advises believers to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger, emphasizing the importance of controlling one's temper to prevent disputes.

Matthew 5:9
Jesus calls peacemakers blessed, highlighting the value of avoiding quarrels and promoting peace.

Ephesians 4:26-27
Paul warns against letting anger lead to sin, which aligns with the advice in Proverbs to abandon disputes before they escalate.
Sermons
StrifeD. Thomas, D. D.Proverbs 17:14
Strife and ContentionJohn Newcombe, D. D.Proverbs 17:14
The Beginning of StrifeJ. F. B. Tinling, B. A.Proverbs 17:14
The Growth of StrifeW. Clarkson Proverbs 17:14
Fatherhood and SonshipW. Clarkson Proverbs 17:6, 21, 25
Dark Phases of Human CharacterE. Johnson Proverbs 17:10-15
People
Solomon
Places
Jerusalem
Topics
Abandon, Beginning, Blows, Breaching, Break, Breaks, Contention, Dam, Dispute, Drop, Fighting, Leave, Letteth, Letting, Matter, Meddled, Quarrel, Quarreling, Quarrelling, Quit, Start, Stop, Strife, Vehement, Waters, Withdraw
Dictionary of Bible Themes
Proverbs 17:14

     5834   disagreement

Library
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Rev. A. B. Simpson—Days of Heaven Upon Earth

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Rev. A. B. Simpson—Days of Heaven Upon Earth

The Unrivalled Friend
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Its Meaning
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"He hath no form nor comeliness; and when we shall see Him, there is no beauty that we should desire Him."--Isaiah liii. 2. "Religion is a weariness;" such is the judgment commonly passed, often avowed, concerning the greatest of blessings which Almighty God has bestowed upon us. And when God gave the blessing, He at the same time foretold that such would be the judgment of the world upon it, even as manifested in the gracious Person of Him whom He sent to give it to us. "He hath no form nor …
John Henry Newman—Parochial and Plain Sermons, Vol. VII

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Cæsarius of Arles.
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Letter xxiv (Circa A. D. 1126) to Oger, Regular Canon
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Twenty Second Sunday after Trinity Paul's Thanks and Prayers for Churches.
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How the Silent and the Talkative are to be Admonished.
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"Thou Shall Keep Him in Perfect Peace, Whose Mind is Stayed on Thee, Because He Trusteth in Thee. "
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Hugh Binning—The Works of the Rev. Hugh Binning

An Analysis of Augustin's Writings against the Donatists.
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St. Augustine—writings in connection with the donatist controversy.

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Proverbs
Many specimens of the so-called Wisdom Literature are preserved for us in the book of Proverbs, for its contents are by no means confined to what we call proverbs. The first nine chapters constitute a continuous discourse, almost in the manner of a sermon; and of the last two chapters, ch. xxx. is largely made up of enigmas, and xxxi. is in part a description of the good housewife. All, however, are rightly subsumed under the idea of wisdom, which to the Hebrew had always moral relations. The Hebrew …
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