1 Samuel 20:3
But David again vowed, "Your father knows very well that I have found favor in your eyes, and he has said, 'Jonathan must not know of this, or he will be grieved.' As surely as the LORD lives and as you yourself live, there is but a step between me and death."
But David again vowed,

David solemnly reaffirmed the truth of Saul’s hostility. He did not speak from suspicion alone but from the danger he had repeatedly experienced at Saul’s hand.

1Sa 24:22 So David gave his oath to Saul. Then Saul returned home…
2Sa 3:35 Then all the people came and urged David to eat something…
Num 30:2 If a man makes a vow to the LORD or swears an oath…

“Your father knows very well that I have found favor in your eyes,

Saul understood that Jonathan loved David and had pledged himself to him in covenant loyalty. Jonathan’s affection for David was not merely personal friendship; it reflected his recognition that the LORD had chosen David for Israel’s future.

1Sa 27:5 Then David said to Achish, “If I have found favor…
1Sa 16:22 Then Saul sent word to Jesse, saying, “Let David remain…
Gen 18:3 “My lord,” said Abraham, “if I have found favor”…

and he has said, ‘Jonathan must not know of this, or he will be grieved.’

Saul concealed his purpose because he knew Jonathan would oppose any attempt on David’s life. The king’s secrecy revealed how far his heart had turned from obedience to God and from the welfare of his own son.

1Sa 18:1-4 After David had finished speaking with Saul,…
1Sa 19:1-2 Then Saul ordered his son Jonathan and all his servants…
2Sa 1:26 I grieve for you, Jonathan, my brother.…

As surely as the LORD lives and as you yourself live,

David called upon the living LORD as witness to his words and appealed to Jonathan with the seriousness of a covenant oath. Though threatened by Saul, David continued to confess that his life rested under God’s rule.

2Ki 2:2 “Please stay here, for the LORD has sent me on to Bethel.”…
2Ki 2:4 And Elijah said to Elisha, “Please stay here,…
2Ki 2:6 And Elijah said to Elisha, “Please stay here,…

there is but a step between me and death.”

Saul’s murderous intent had made David’s position perilous. Yet the small distance between David and death also stood beneath the LORD’s sovereign protection, for God would preserve His anointed servant until the appointed time for David to reign.

1Sa 27:1 David, however, said to himself, “One of these days…
Psa 119:109 I constantly take my life in my hands, yet I do not…
Psa 56:13 For You have delivered my soul from death, …

Persons / Places / Events
1. David
The future king of Israel, anointed by Samuel, and a man after God's own heart. At this point, he is fleeing from King Saul, who seeks to kill him.

2. Jonathan
The son of King Saul and a close friend of David. He is caught between his loyalty to his father and his covenant friendship with David.

3. Saul
The first king of Israel, who has become increasingly paranoid and hostile towards David, seeing him as a threat to his throne.

4. The Oath
David swears an oath to Jonathan, emphasizing the seriousness of his situation and the imminent danger he faces.

5. The LORD
The covenant name of God, Yahweh, whom David invokes to affirm the truth of his perilous situation.
Teaching Points
The Reality of Persecution
David's experience reminds us that following God's will can lead to persecution and danger. Believers should be prepared for trials and trust in God's protection.

The Value of Godly Friendships
The bond between David and Jonathan illustrates the importance of having godly friends who support and encourage us in our faith journey.

Trust in God's Sovereignty
Despite the threat to his life, David acknowledges God's control over his circumstances. Believers are called to trust in God's sovereignty, even when facing life's uncertainties.

The Power of a Covenant Relationship
The covenant between David and Jonathan is a powerful example of commitment and loyalty. Christians are encouraged to honor their commitments to God and others.

Living with an Eternal Perspective
David's awareness of the brevity of life ("there is but a step between me and death") challenges us to live with an eternal perspective, prioritizing what truly matters.
Bible Study Questions
1. How does David's situation in 1 Samuel 20:3 reflect the challenges faced by believers today who are committed to following God's will?

2. In what ways can the friendship between David and Jonathan inspire us to cultivate deeper, more meaningful relationships within our Christian community?

3. How can we apply David's trust in God's sovereignty to our own lives, especially when facing difficult or dangerous situations?

4. What are some practical ways we can honor our commitments to God and others, as seen in the covenant relationship between David and Jonathan?

5. How does living with the awareness of life's brevity, as David expressed, influence our daily decisions and priorities as Christians?
Connections to Other Scriptures
Psalm 23
David's acknowledgment of God's presence and protection, even in the face of death, echoes his trust in God despite the danger he faces from Saul.

Proverbs 18:24
The deep friendship between David and Jonathan exemplifies the proverb about a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

Hebrews 11:32-34
David is listed among the heroes of faith, highlighting his trust in God despite the threats to his life.

John 15:13
Jonathan's willingness to protect David at great personal risk reflects the ultimate expression of love described by Jesus.
But a StepSpurgeon, Charles Haddon1 Samuel 20:3
Certainty of DeathT. Macconnel.1 Samuel 20:3
Mortal PerilD. Fraser 1 Samuel 20:3
Only a StepB. Dale 1 Samuel 20:3
Solemn NewsT. Kelly.1 Samuel 20:3
The Mystic StopJ. Dunlop.1 Samuel 20:3
The Nearness of DeathJ. Parker, D. D.1 Samuel 20:3
The Intercourse of FriendsB. Dale 1 Samuel 20:1-10
A Friendly Prince a Princely FriendH. E. Stone.1 Samuel 20:1-42
David and JonathanW. G. Blaikie, D. D.1 Samuel 20:1-42
People
Abner, David, Jesse, Jonathan, Saul
Places
Bethlehem, Jerusalem, Naioth, Ramah
Topics
Certainly, David, Dear, Death, Favor, Favour, Grace, Grief, Grieved, Hardly, Idea, Jonathan, Knoweth, Lest, Moreover, Oath, Replied, Saying, Says, Sees, Sight, Soul, Step, Surely, Sware, Sweareth, Swore, Thinks, Truly, Vowed, Yet
Dictionary of Bible Themes
1 Samuel 20:3

     5861   favour, human

1 Samuel 20:1-42

     5086   David, rise of

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Jonathan, the Pattern of Friendship
'And David fled from Naioth in Ramah, and came and said before Jonathan, What have I done? what is mine iniquity? and what is my sin before thy father, that he seeketh my life? 2. And he said unto him, God forbid; thou shalt not die: behold, my father will do nothing either great or small, but that he will shew it me: and why should my father hide this thing from me? it is not so. 3. And David sware moreover, and said, Thy father certainly knoweth that I have found grace in thine eyes; and he saith,
Alexander Maclaren—Expositions of Holy Scripture

A Word for the Persecuted
Remember that this supposition is a very likely one. There are a few Christians so favourably circumstanced that all their friends accompany them in the pilgrimage to heaven. What advances they ought to make in the sacred journey! What excellent Christians they ought to be! They are like plants in a conservatory--they ought to grow and bring forth the loveliest Bowers of divine grace. But there are not very many who are altogether in that case. The large proportion of Christians find themselves opposed
Charles Haddon Spurgeon—Spurgeon's Sermons Volume 20: 1874

How to Make Use of Christ for Steadfastness, in a Time when Truth is Oppressed and Borne Down.
When enemies are prevailing, and the way of truth is evil spoken of, many faint, and many turn aside, and do not plead for truth, nor stand up for the interest of Christ, in their hour and power of darkness: many are overcome with base fear, and either side with the workers of iniquity, or are not valiant for the truth, but being faint-hearted, turn back. Now the thoughts of this may put some who desire to stand fast, and to own him and his cause in a day of trial, to enquire how they shall make
John Brown (of Wamphray)—Christ The Way, The Truth, and The Life

Samuel
Alike from the literary and the historical point of view, the book[1] of Samuel stands midway between the book of Judges and the book of Kings. As we have already seen, the Deuteronomic book of Judges in all probability ran into Samuel and ended in ch. xii.; while the story of David, begun in Samuel, embraces the first two chapters of the first book of Kings. The book of Samuel is not very happily named, as much of it is devoted to Saul and the greater part to David; yet it is not altogether inappropriate,
John Edgar McFadyen—Introduction to the Old Testament

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