He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently. Sermons
Few proverbs "come home" to us like those which affect the daily government of our household. They make their appeal to the human heart, to universal experience. I. THE PARENTAL INSTINCT. 1. This is, to let the child have his way; to give him the gratification be desires, to find a present pleasure in his momentary happiness. 2. This is, to spare him suffering. No parent can hear his child cry without suffering himself (herself). Our instinct is to save our children from every trouble, small and great, from which we can exempt them. And it "goes against the grain" to inflict punishment, to cause pain, to deprive of some known enjoyment. But we dare not be blind to - II. THE LESSON OF EXPERIENCE. Universal experience proves that to act on mere parental instruct is nothing less than selfish cruelty. It is to act as if we positively hated our children. For it is the one sure way to spoil them for life, to ruin their character. The undisciplined child becomes the wayward boy, the dissipated young man, the wreck of manhood. He becomes self-centred, incapable of controlling his spirit, exacting in all his relations, disregardful of all law and of all claims. It is to withhold the one condition under which alone we can expect any one to attain to an admirable and honourable manhood. It is to deny to our own children the most essential element of education. Experience proves that he who spares the rod acts as if he positively hated his son. III. THE PRACTICE OF WISDOM. This is the well-moderated correction of love. This correction should be: 1. Carefully proportioned to the offence; the lighter ones, such as carelessness or inaptitude, being followed by the lighter rebuke, and the graver ones, such as falsehood or cruelty, being visited with severer measures. 2. Administered, not in the heat of temper, but in the calmness of conviction, and with the manifest sorrow of true affection. 3. As free as possible from physical violence. The "rod" need not be made of wood or iron. A look of reproach (Luke 22:61), a just rebuke or remonstrance, a wisely chosen exclusion from some appreciated privilege, may do much more good than any blows upon the body. 4. Strictly just, with a leaning to charitable construction. For one unjust infliction will do more harm than many just ones will do good. 5. Occasional and of brief duration. Nothing defeats its own purpose more certainly than perpetual fault- finding, or constantly repeated punishment, or penalty that is unrighteously severe. It behoves us always to remember that as our heavenly Father does not "deal with us after our sins" with rigorous penalties, and is not "strict to mark iniquity" with unfailing chastisement, so it becomes us, as parents, in the treatment of our children, to let pity and charity have a very large, modifying influence on our correction. He that loveth chastens "betimes;" he is not always chastening. He takes care to let his children know and feel that beneath and above and throughout his fatherly righteousness is his parental love. - C. He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. Under this apparent severity is to be found the spirit of true kindness. It would seem as if the last word in the text were an emphatic word. There is a good deal of chastening, but it is not timely; the will has grown strong, the passions have acquired tenacious hold upon the mind, the chastening comes too late in life. It is the easiest of all things to spare the rod; it enables family life to proceed with fluency; it avoids all controversy and all painful collision as between the elder and the younger. For a time this is beautiful, so much so that people commend the family as one characterised by great harmony and union; on the contrary, it ought to be reprobated. The child that is wisely chastened comes to love the very hand that used the rod. Children must be taught that all things are not theirs, that the world is a place for discipline, and that all life is valuable only in proportion as it has been refined and strengthened by patient endurance. Let no merely cruel man take encouragement from these words to use the rod without measure, and to use it merely for the sake of showing his animal strength. That is not the teaching of the passage. The chastening is to be with measure, is to be timely, is to have some proportion to the offence that is visited, and is to give more pain to the inflicter of the punishment than to its receiver. Great wisdom is required in the use of the rod. The rod has to be used upon every man sooner or later; we cannot escape chastisement: we must be made to feel that the world is not all ours, that there are rights and interests to be respected besides those which we ourselves claim: the sooner that lesson can be instilled into the mind the better; if it can be wrought into the heart and memory of childhood it will save innumerable anxieties and disappointments in all after-life. () The rod is to be taken for correction or punishment in general, not specifically for corporal punishment. 1. The rod should be the last resource. The cases in which it is necessary to appeal to the rod are very rare. 2. When the rod is used, be quite sure that a fault has been committed. Children are sometimes severely chastened when they have committed no fault, and this produces a sense of injury and a loss of confidence, which cannot fail to exert evil influences. 3. Let there be a due proportion between the fault and the correction. 4. Never chastise in a passion. 5. Let chastisement be preceded by, or accompanied with, earnest efforts to convince the offender of his fault. 6. Accompany the correction with a system of encouragement. () ()
People SolomonPlaces JerusalemTopics Betimes, Care, Careful, Chasteneth, Chastisement, Diligent, Diligently, Discipline, Disciplines, Gives, Hastened, Hates, Hateth, Hating, Keeps, Loves, Loveth, Loving, Punishment, Rod, Spares, Spareth, Sparing, Unkind, WithholdsOutline 1. a scoffer does not listen to rebuke
Dictionary of Bible Themes Proverbs 13:24 5053 responsibility, for world
5276 crime
5666 children, needs
5685 fathers, responsibilities
5777 admonition
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Alexander Maclaren—Expositions of Holy ScriptureThe Poor Rich and the Rich Poor
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Martin Luther—Epistle Sermons, Vol. II How is Christ, as the Life, to be Applied by a Soul that Misseth God's Favour and Countenance.
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John Newton—Messiah Vol. 2 "But if Ye have Bitter Envying and Strife in Your Hearts, Glory Not," &C.
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Hugh Binning—The Works of the Rev. Hugh Binning Blessed are the Poor in Spirit
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