2 Samuel 14:19
So the king asked, "Is the hand of Joab behind all this?" The woman answered, "As surely as you live, my lord the king, no one can turn to the right or to the left from anything that my lord the king says. Yes, your servant Joab is the one who gave me orders; he told your maidservant exactly what to say.
So the king asked, “Is the hand of Joab behind all this?”

David recognized that the woman’s case had been carefully designed to address Absalom’s exile. Joab had arranged for the wise woman of Tekoa to present a fictional family crisis that would press David toward mercy. David’s discernment exposed the hidden political purpose without denying the real force of the appeal.

2Sa 20:9-10 “Are you well, my brother?” Joab asked Amasa.…
2Sa 3:27 When Abner returned to Hebron, Joab pulled him aside…
1Ki 1:7 So Adonijah conferred with Joab son of Zeruiah…

The woman answered, “As surely as you live, my lord the king,

The woman acknowledged David’s authority and answered with solemn respect. Her oath affirmed that she would not deny what the king had correctly perceived.

2Sa 15:21 But Ittai answered the king, “As surely as the LORD lives…
1Sa 1:26 “Please, my lord,” said Hannah, “I am the woman……
2Ki 2:2 “Please stay here, for the LORD has sent me on to Bethel.”…

no one can turn to the right or to the left from anything that my lord the king says.

David’s insight left her no way to avoid the truth. The language portrays the king as seeing through the carefully constructed account and reaching its intended meaning.

Deu 17:11 according to the terms of law they give…
Jos 1:7 Above all, be strong and very courageous.…
Jos 23:6 Be very strong, then, so that you can keep and obey…

Yes, your servant Joab is the one who gave me orders;

Joab had acted because he saw David’s continuing grief over Absalom and believed the prince’s return would serve the kingdom’s stability. Yet Joab used indirect means rather than openly bringing his counsel to David, revealing both his political skill and his willingness to manipulate circumstances.

2Sa 11:18-21 Joab sent to David a full account of the battle…
2Sa 18:11-15 “You just saw him!” Joab exclaimed. “Why did you”…

he told your maidservant exactly what to say.

The woman’s speech had been prepared to move David’s heart toward Absalom. David permitted Absalom to return to Jerusalem, but restoration to the city did not immediately restore fellowship between father and son. The later rebellion of Absalom shows that outward reconciliation cannot replace repentance, truth, and a healed relationship.

Gen 27:6-17 Rebekah said to her son Jacob, “Behold, I overheard…
1Ki 21:8-13 Then Jezebel wrote letters in Ahab’s name,…

Persons / Places / Events
1. King David
The ruler of Israel, known for his heart after God, but also for his personal and familial struggles.

2. Joab
The commander of David's army, known for his military prowess and political maneuvering.

3. The Wise Woman of Tekoa
A woman used by Joab to deliver a parable to King David, aiming to influence his decision regarding Absalom.

4. Absalom
David's son, who was in exile after killing his brother Amnon. His return to Jerusalem is the central issue in this account.

5. Tekoa
A town in Judah, known for its wise inhabitants, including the prophet Amos.
Teaching Points
The Power of Influence
Joab's use of the woman from Tekoa demonstrates how influence can be wielded to achieve desired outcomes. We must be discerning about who influences us and how we influence others.

Wisdom in Counsel
The woman from Tekoa was chosen for her wisdom. This highlights the importance of seeking wise counsel in our own lives, especially when making significant decisions.

Confrontation and Reconciliation
The account underscores the need for addressing wrongs and seeking reconciliation, as seen in the attempt to bring Absalom back. This is a reminder of the importance of forgiveness and restoration in our relationships.

God's Sovereignty in Leadership
Despite human manipulation, God's purposes prevail. We can trust that God is ultimately in control, even when human leaders make flawed decisions.

The Role of Parables
The use of a parable to convey a message to David shows the power of accounttelling in revealing truth and prompting reflection. We can use accounts to communicate effectively and engage others in meaningful dialogue.
Bible Study Questions
1. How does Joab's influence over the situation with Absalom reflect the power dynamics in our own lives, and how can we ensure that our influence aligns with God's will?

2. In what ways can we seek and apply wise counsel in our decision-making processes, as seen in the role of the wise woman of Tekoa?

3. How does the theme of reconciliation in this passage challenge us to address unresolved conflicts in our own relationships?

4. What does this passage teach us about God's sovereignty over human affairs, and how can this understanding impact our trust in His plans?

5. How can we use accounttelling or parables in our own lives to convey truth and encourage others towards reflection and change?
Connections to Other Scriptures
2 Samuel 12
Nathan's parable to David about the rich man and the poor man's lamb, which parallels the use of parables to confront David with his own decisions.

Proverbs 21:1
The idea that the king's heart is in the hand of the Lord, reflecting on how God can use others to influence leaders.

Matthew 18:15-17
The process of reconciliation and addressing sin, which relates to the theme of bringing Absalom back to Jerusalem.
The Woman of TekoahB. Dale 2 Samuel 14:1-20
The Parable of the Woman of TekoaA London Minister2 Samuel 14:5-20
People
Absalom, Joab, Tamar, Zeruiah
Places
Geshur, Jerusalem, Tekoa
Topics
Answereth, Anyone, Anything, Aught, Bade, Bondmaid, Commanded, Handmaid, Indeed, Instructed, Joab, Jo'ab, Maidservant, Maid-servant, Mouth, None, O, Orders, Ought, Possible, Replied, Says, Servant, Soul, Spoken, Surely, Turn, Turning, Urged, Yes
Dictionary of Bible Themes
2 Samuel 14:1-20

     5383   lawsuits

2 Samuel 14:1-24

     6682   mediation

2 Samuel 14:1-33

     6684   mediator

2 Samuel 14:17-20

     5863   flattery

2 Samuel 14:18-20

     8228   discernment, examples

2 Samuel 14:19-22

     5861   favour, human

Library
God's Banished Ones
'God doth devise means, that His banished be not expelled from Him.' 2 SAMUEL xiv. 14. David's good-for-nothing son Absalom had brought about the murder of one of his brothers, and had fled the country. His father weakly loved the brilliant blackguard, and would fain have had him back, but was restrained by a sense of kingly duty. Joab, the astute Commander-in- chief, a devoted friend of David, saw how the land lay, and formed a plan to give the king an excuse for doing what he wished to do. So
Alexander Maclaren—Expositions of Holy Scripture

The Barley Field on Fire
Omitting the sin of the deed, we have here a picture of what is often done by our gracious God, with the wisest and best design. Often he sendeth for us, not for his profit, but for ours. He would have us come near to him and receive a blessing at his hands; but we are foolish and cold-hearted and wicked, and we will not come. He, knowing that we will not come by any other means, sendeth a serious trial: he sets our barley-field on fire; which he has a right to do, seeing our barley-fields are far
Charles Haddon Spurgeon—Spurgeon's Sermons Volume 10: 1864

The Blessed Privilege of Seeing God Explained
They shall see God. Matthew 5:8 These words are linked to the former and they are a great incentive to heart-purity. The pure heart shall see the pure God. There is a double sight which the saints have of God. 1 In this life; that is, spiritually by the eye of faith. Faith sees God's glorious attributes in the glass of his Word. Faith beholds him showing forth himself through the lattice of his ordinances. Thus Moses saw him who was invisible (Hebrews 11:27). Believers see God's glory as it were
Thomas Watson—The Beatitudes: An Exposition of Matthew 5:1-12

The Hebrew Sages and their Proverbs
[Sidenote: Role of the sages in Israel's life] In the days of Jeremiah and Ezekiel (Jer. xviii. 18; Ezek. vii. 26) three distinct classes of religious teachers were recognized by the people: the prophets, the priests, and the wise men or sages. From their lips and pens have come practically all the writings of the Old Testament. Of these three classes the wise men or sages are far less prominent or well known. They wrote no history of Israel, they preached no public sermons, nor do they appear
Charles Foster Kent—The Origin & Permanent Value of the Old Testament

Samuel
Alike from the literary and the historical point of view, the book[1] of Samuel stands midway between the book of Judges and the book of Kings. As we have already seen, the Deuteronomic book of Judges in all probability ran into Samuel and ended in ch. xii.; while the story of David, begun in Samuel, embraces the first two chapters of the first book of Kings. The book of Samuel is not very happily named, as much of it is devoted to Saul and the greater part to David; yet it is not altogether inappropriate,
John Edgar McFadyen—Introduction to the Old Testament

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