whom.

John 13:23
One of His disciples, the one whom Jesus loved, was reclining at His side.

John 20:2
So she came running to Simon Peter and the other disciple, the one whom Jesus loved. "They have taken the Lord out of the tomb, " she said, "and we do not know where they have put Him!"

John 21:7, 20, 24
Then the disciple whom Jesus loved said to Peter, "It is the Lord!" As soon as Simon Peter heard that it was the Lord, he put on his outer garment (for he had removed it) and jumped into the sea. . . .

Woman.

John 2:4
"Woman, why does this concern us?" Jesus replied. "My hour has not yet come."